Parenting Tips: 6 Important Things Parents Should Try and Do For Their Child/Children

Parenting is one SPECIAL role in life as it can simply be put as the foundation that which plays a big part in the life of the future generation (the kids). It is a role every parents need to play well so as to secure the future of their young ones likewise themselves.
      On this post, i would like to talk about 6 handy and easy parenting tips that i believe would be helpful for Parents out there and also help the children.


6 Parenting Skills/Tips Every Parents Should Endeavor To Have/Do


1. Love -  This should be the first and foremost in not only Parenting, but also other aspects of Relationship. Showing Love in this case is not all about Money, its about sincere caring and letting them know they matter to you.
   By showing love to your kids, they would be able to have full confidence in you and also boost their self-esteem.


2. Provide Needs - Giving birth to a baby doesn't makes you a Responsible Parent but Providing the basic needs for them. It baffles me when some parents said 'he can take of himself' to their child whom is not yet independent.
   Although this can be true in some cases but not all cases. You have to build your child to a certain level before he/she can become independent.


3. Make yourself available -
Because of the No #2 i mentioned above, most parents have to engage themselves in a Job that pays well. Sometimes the job especially that of the man ends up consuming lots of time thus making it hard for the man to spend time with his family.
     However it is still possible to create quality time and spend with your family especially the kids. Most children needs their parents to listen to their worries (See No #4 about Listening) and making yourself available for them is one of the best thing to them.

Check out Also: What Children Need From Their Parents

4. Be a Good Listener and Observer - As a parent, Its one thing to be a listener and its another thing to be a GOOD listener. When discussing with your children and they're sharing their worries with you, do not listen for the sake of listening only but also to analyze their worries and also attempts to offer solution.
      Also be a good observer who knows when their child is feeling uneasy about something. This will help in building children's self esteem 





5. Parenting Plan, and Planning For Your Children's Future - What do you have in Stock for your Children's 's future? Are you someone who believe things will work out themselves or you are someone who plans ahead?
    Prepare your child for the future and also the future for your child.


6. Integrate them to larger society -
Sooner or later, your child will need to become part of the larger society apart from the immediate family before becoming independent. Whilst they would have to do lots of things on their own, it would be easier and faster to help them.
     Integrate your child to the larger society but before then, try to guide them so they won't fall into the wrong hands.

Lastly, i want to use this moment to commend the efforts of all Responsible Parents out there.
  Kudos!



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... Maybe Its Just a Blessing in Disguise

I've been away on this blog like FOREVER, though that word FOREVER, is an exaggeration cos i've not been away for that so long;) But the thing is; whenever i couldn't publish a post on time, i feel like i've away for so very very long.
Yet my main reason for not publishing a post on time is not because i have writers' block or something, but my mobile phone device which i used for my blogging activities recently stopped working with the Blogger Platform.

In order to continue publishing post, i had to create a new option which was having to draft a post on my phone and copy it to my facebook notes. And whenever am on a connected PC, i would move the post from facebook to Blogger post-editor and continue there.

During this period, i still use the mobile phone device to do blogposts promotion on social networks, replying 'n' sending mails, and some other things but i still hated every single moment i was unable to use the Blogger Post-editor on the phone. Although the phone bug made me become smarter (by forcing me to think of another method) but it still make things more complicated and also does take a lot of time before i could publish a single post:/
That made me COMPLAIN A LOT about what i do not have and thus, forgot to BE THANKFUL for what i already had.

Then something later happened and that changed my perspection about nature.




After some times in which the bug occurred, my mobile phone device suddenly stopped working (i talked about how it happened on this post likewise how it was fixed) and i couldn't use the phone for DAYS! Additionally, What added salt to the injury was that; it was during the week that i was expecting some calls that the phone stopped working.
THERE i LEARNT my FIRST LIFE LESSON that

"Thou should be thankful for what you have,
instead of complainning a lot about what you do not have"


When my mobile phone device went out of action completely and i couldn't call, send text and some other things, i then realized 'HALF A LOAF, IS BETTER THAN NONE' *winks*
However the Good News is; I was also been able to come up with New ideas about blogging in which am sure if the device didn't act up like that, i MIGHT not able to come up with those ideas.


I'll be stopping right here and i hope you guys grab something from my recent life lesson. Feel free to leave me a comment and If you have a moment, i would also love to hear from you about your recent life lesson via the comment box below!
Stay blessed!

UPDATE - I've now gotten a new device
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My First Love Story 4 (After High School)

The time was 9 in the morning at a large city from the Western Part of Africa. Birds nearby, were whistling happily from different locations and children of different age were also seen playing around as it was their 3rd term holiday.
A young boy in his late teen came out through the backyard of an house painted in blue. He stretched his hand and began brushing his teeth. From his action, one could deduce the fact that he had just woken up from sleep.
The boy finished brushing and was about to turn back to enter the house when a woman came from inside the house and hand a mobile phone to him.




'Your phone was ringing but it stopped before i came here' the woman said

'Thank you Mum' Abbey said and collects the phone from her.


Holding the toothbrush in his right hand, Abbey uses his left hand to press his phone in order to check the missed call, in which it turns out to be his childhood friend 'Oyinda'. He was short of mobile airtime then, so he dial the shortcode for (borrowing airtime) so he can call her back asap. Upon receiving the credit, he dialed her number


'Hello Oyinda'

'How are you Abbey?

'Am fine. I missed your call on my phone and...'

'Yeah, i just wanted to say hello to you as its been a while we talked last'

'Thats true and i was already thinking that after am through with brushing my Teeth, i should borrow airtime and call your number'

'Really? That means our mind works together! '

'hahaha! Of course! Ehm... I guess you must have checked your O level result?'

'Yes i had, since the result has been announced to be officially out. Its even part of what i wanted to tell you when i called '

'So whats the score?'

'I made all the required papers, with 2 distinctions and the remainning Credits!'

'Wow! Thats fantastic! You need to celebrate this for me oo'

'Celebration? I hope you knew am not yet a working class, still an aspiring student'

'Just joking though, but whatever sha, you still will celebrate it for me'

'Okay, i've heard you. So how about yours? Am sure you're going to have at least 6 distinctions'

'I haven't checked mine though, currently short of funds to buy the scratch card but in 3days time, i ought to have gotten it'

'Alright but pls inform me whenever you check. I will also have you in mind but just in case, i might forget, please call me'

'Okay friend. And how is Mummy and dadd.....'


Computer Voice: Your account balance is low, please load a recharge card



Abbey ends the call after finding out that his borrowed credit had exhausted. He went back inside to prepare for shower and go meet his friend for the new job they recently found - marketing.
After being through in dressing up and eating the Jollof rice breakfast prepared by his mother, he was about to leave house when his friend showed up.


'You know we're almost late?' Abeeb said

'Sorry pal, i slept late yesterday and the penalty for it is my waking up late this morning' Abbey replied

'Alright. Lets go sha before the manager runs out of patience'

'Yeah, thats true!'

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The two friends walked to a building which is like a few blocks from Abbey's house. When they got there, they met 2 young boys and 3 girls like in their late teens and busy loading goods at the back of a Bus.
Abeeb walked up to one of the girl and asked about the manager. The girl whose name is Dammy replied him that he's discussing with assistant manager inside.

'I hope no problem?' Abbey said

'There is ooo. The manager just dismissed 3 people among us who got low sales yesterday.' Dammy replied

'Eeewo! Thank God we haven't come earlier, am double sure me and Abeeb would have been among them cos we also got low sales yesterday'

'Really?' Dammy asked

'ehn now. And it was just that yesterday oo, before we used to...'


'Why are you just coming now Abbey and Abeeb?' The manager said coming out from the house

'Sir! we are, i mean i...' Abbey tried to find the right words to explain the reason for his lateness but he was cut off words

'Don't bother to explain. I believe your colleagues must have informed you about those we dismissed? Am imploring you the others that you should try your best and make good sales'

'Okay sir' All the boys and girls replied in chorus


'I hope you're through with the loading of the goods.' The assistant manager asked

'Yes sir, all done' One of the boys replied

'Alright, lets get moving then' The assistant manager said


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CHAPTER 4 ENDS



MORAL

Sometimes what we sees as an unpleasant thing,
might actually be a blessing in disguise
(as in the case of Abbey's lateness)

What other lessons do you learn in this chapter, comment here or feel free to send it to my mail at tuhamworld@gmail.com.

PREVIOUSLY => My First Love Story 3 (High School)
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Which One Would You Choose? || Good Sense Of Humour OR a Cool Nice Voice

Sometimes we tend to like someone because of something we see in them or rather, the quality we believe they possess. Now lets take a closer look into the personality of having a nice voice and sense of humour.
As a Man, would you prefer having sense of humour over that of a Nice Voice?
And if you're a Woman, would you rather like having a man possessing sense of humour than the latter?

This question was what i saw on a popular Q and A's sites in which i couldn't stop myself from thinking on expantiating, and how to post it on this blog.

[Did You Dislike Something About Your Partner? Then Read this

When i read the contents of the post, i found some answers in which some said 'they prefer a man with sense of humour', while another group said they'd like a man with a very nice voice.
But from my own perspective, i think both are cool and if a man possess the two, then he's really really LUCKY! ;)

However while each of this personality had their advantages, there is still a side-effects attached to them. Below, i would mentioned the Pros and Cons of the two in General, and also in Relationship.

For A Man Who Had A Sense of Humour Over Cool Nice Voice

The Pros: Generally, this personality makes the man to be liked by many because of the way he puts smiles on people's face during convo. (you can check my own funny convo here.
And in Relationship, i guess his future partner would hardly had boring moments whenever she's around him. Isn't that true?

The Cons: If the man gets TOO EXTREME with his humour, people might not take him serious even at the moment he's trying to be frank.
And in Relationship, the funny thing is; if a quote which says 'Girls Fall in Love with what they hear' is TRUE, then because of his *uncool and unnice voice*, majority of girls might not completely like talking to him on phone or via anything involving his voice.

For A Man With Cool Nice Voice Over Sense of Humour

The Pros: Generally, people are going to love hearing his voice or talking with him on phone. If he's talented, he might successfully built a music career.
And in Relationship, his Partner would like hearing his cool nice voice over, and over again;)

The Cons: Generally, his Nice Voice might eventually bored people if sense of humour is not involved.
And in Relationship, i once came across a post on the internet which a woman said "She's not feeling okay with her partner not having sense of humour"

[Can Distance Really Alter Love Intensity?]

As for me ooh, am humorous but i think my voice is somehow little manly. Lots of people that'd talked with me on phone said they did love the Unique Voice probably i would have changed it;)
Wait, you doubt if a voice could be changed? Well, I think it can:)

Now Over to you, Which one do you like between the two? I would like to hear from you
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My First Podcast + Important Life Lessons

Did you just read the Post title? I finally did my First Podcast! | Not that am new to the Podcast of a thing Concept but me doing it especially at this moment, IS A REALLY REALLY LITTLE BIG THING (In Iris West's Voice as seen in The Flash Movie). In this post, i'm going to tell you what makes my podcast special and the life lesson you too can learn from what i just did.

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Incase you're wondering What is a Podcast? A Podcast is simply a digital audio available on the internet for download usually in series. There are different topics people usually perform podcast on, like Darren Rowse of Problogger.Net whom usually did his Podcast in form of Blogging Tips.
The podcast i did was about TWB latest short-story which is My First Love Story Series although i've only done the podcast for that of the Story Intro. (see link at the last paragraph).

What Made My First Podcast Special

  • Let me describe my feelings in 3 steps - *. You know that kind of feeling a baby feels when he took his first step after crawling for a long time? <= I was excited to take the NEW STEP.
    *. That kind of feeling you get when you had your first mobile phone, <= I was Curious.
    *. The Kind of feeling a mother gets when she had her first child, <= I feel light-hearted after bearing the thought in my mind for a long time.

    Even though i've been aware about what a Podcast is, since a while, i was reluctant (or should i say timid) to try it. Then recently, i decides to take a bold step and JUST DO IT!

What My First Podcast Taught Me

  • BEFORE I DECIDED TO DO IT, I was waiting for THE RIGHT TIME, - A TIME i'd have my PC to make necessary changes on the Podcast, A TIME i would be ready to do the Voice Recording, A TIME that i won't be faced with any Distraction, but the truth is; Waiting for THAT TIME would be like waiting forever simply because;

    - I can't predict THE TIME i would get a PC, so why the wait. Why not just Do it Now using the available means!
    - There is no time that i can't get distracted, i just need to be determined and focus on what i wanted to do.

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Life Lesson You Can Learn About Me+My First Podcast => Is there something you'd really wished to start but you're feeling reluctant because of certain reasons like making Mistakes, Not being Good enough, Distractions, etcetera. Well am telling you that, If your reasons are more or less feeble like mine, then you should do it!
You might made mistake at first but laugh over it and work towards improving, as time goes on, you'll soon learn how todo it the right way.

As a matter of fact, I did the Podcast using my phone which is an Amr format (the lowest quality a sound could have), after which i now did use an online method to increase the quality of the sound which turns it into mp3.
If you listen to voice over on the clip, you would know its my Baby-Steps Podcast *covers face* but i sure did take a leap of faith! As time goes on, i hope to improve.

You too can do it. Remember the one sure way to build your self-confidence is to STOP THINKING and START ACTING! So i dare you to take a bold step and work towards achieving your dream.
If you want to download my first podcast, Goto the Post Here and scroll to the last paragraph.

Is there something you also recently attempt in which you haven't done before? Kindly share with me, i would really really love to know.
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Inspiring Speech And Tips About Yourself

Perhaps we could all confirmed that the most amazing and loyal bestfriend one could ever had is, one-self. Little wonder a popular video game once quoted;
"There is only one corner in the Universe that you can be sure of, and that is Yourself" - Zuma.
Having known this, won't it be more rewarding if you can give insipiring speech about yourself quite often!

No matter how hard they tried to, friends, families and loved ones cannot stick with us 24/7 and if they can, they cannot do so for an ENTIRE WEEK without feeling one or two form of inconveniency unlike one's self which is going to stay with us from the moment we wake up in the morning and stick till the moment we sleep at night.
This is why its very important to take care of yourself physically and psycologically. To cut the long story short, i'll be sharing below on this post 4 inspiring speech and tips about yourself to stay motivated.

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4 Inspiring Speech and Tips About Yourself

  1. Control Your Mind - One of the most powerful possession a man had, is HIS MIND. It is so powerful that a populous author once stated, (one can be careless with the material things but not with his mind). The mind is the foundation of abstract things converted to reality.
    Great men known nowadays started by conceiving the idea that make them famous IN THEIR MIND. By controlling your mind, you would be able to resist negative thoughts to enter thus allowing positivity to plant good things in your Mind.
  2. (Did You Miss 3 Positive Things and Tools About Life)

  3. Love Yourself More Than Others - Yes, i meant that and wasn't a typography error! However this is not a case of being selfish or not offering help to those whom you should but its like ACCEPTING YOURSELF AND LOVING EVERY PART OF IT. Taking for instance; in a scenario where someone HATED himself and LOVE so dearly another person simply because he lacked what the other person have.
    Love your flaws, complexion and every bit of yourself, then you'll be amazed at the wondeful features you possess and how much endowed you are!
  4. You Are Special - The truth is, you are always going to find someone more better, more handsome/beautiful, more smarter, more endowed than you but there would ALWAYS be something distinct between you and that person.
    Remembering yourself that you are Special would helps in boosting your self-confidence.
  5. (2 Things You Should Start Doing Now Irrespective Of Age)

  6. Analyze Yourself Using The Mirror - One of the gadgets i cherished most is THE MIRROR. Sometimes i carried it with me on an outing (doesn't that sounds girly;)?) to use it to check not only my physical-self but also the INNER-ME.
    You too should give it a try;)
Above are inspiring speech and tips about yourself that i believe would help. Before i go, you might also want to read 5 Easy Steps To Maintain Good Health.
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My First Love Story Part 3 (High School)

A group of 4 girls whom were in school uniforms were seen talking in front of the school gate. They seems to be so engrossed in their discussion so much that they didn't notice a boy in the same school uniform standing behind them.

''I hope you are all preparing for the forthcoming exam?'' said one of the girls
''am trying my best Bunmi, but i don't know about the others ooh'' Moji replied
''Me too. Thanks to Abbey who helps me with mathematics sometimes.'' Oyinda added
''I trust you Oyin. I hope you're paying lesson fees for him sha?'' Ayomide, the tallest among them said
''The subject is very important for my career and yet, can be confusing sometimes'' Oyinda added
''Maybe i should start collecting the tutorial fee as from today'' Abbey finally interrupts in the girls' discussion

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They were all surprised except Oyinda whom says she's used to being pranked and surprised by Abbey. After a little chit-chat, Oyinda told her friend she's leaving for home with Abbey

Did You Miss The Previous Part, Read it at My First Love Story Part 2 (The Eclipse)

While on their way back home, the two friends started their usual discussion which usually revolves around school stuff, home, and other things.

Though they were attending the same school, their department was different as Abbey was in the science department whilst Oyinda was in the commercial department. However they still share knowlegde and helped each other on the subjects which were common to the two departments.

''Its less than two weeks to our exam and am still kind of afraid'' Oyinda said
''Afraid of what?'' Abbey replied softly
''i don't know what exactly it is. I just hope i don't take this kind of feelings till the day''
''do not worry Oyin. Everything is going to be fine''
''I hope it will''
''you don't trust me?''
''of course i do?''
''then believe my word that everything is going to be fine''
''you must be joking. Its okay sha'' Oyinda replied and they continued walking.

**** 2 months Later ****

Abbey's Parents were seen discussing about a matter. It seems Abbey's Mom did not want to agree at first but later changed her mind after being convinced. Few minutes later, Abbey's Mom sent for her son.

''Your father informed me now that we're moving to a new location in a month to this time'' She said
''a month?'' Abbey said feeling surprised
''I guess its enough time to say goodbye to your friends here''
''hmmm... To be sincere mom, it isn't.'' Abbey said feeling speechless and lost in thought
''Its what we need todo'' Abbey's Mom said and left for the inner room.

My First Love Story Part 1 (Childhood)

The following day, Abbey told Oyinda about their transfer. One doesn't need to be a truthseer before pointing out that the two friends weren't happy but they have no choice.
''I guess the yoruba proverb is true afterall'' Oyinda said with weakness showing in her voice
''and what is that my dear friend?'' Abbey replied trying to hide the weakness in his own voice
''that 20 friends cannot play for 20years''
''but we're not 20 friends, remember?'' Abbey tried to cheer her up with his usual creative manner
''you have started again'' Oyinda smiled
''And i'll try to ensure we play for 20years and break that record''
''How will you do that when you're leaving in a month's time?''
''By contacting you no matter how far i go''
''okay. So when should we be expecting our O level result?''
''It was stated we would be aware of when its out but once i knew, i would call you''

The two friends discussed about what they wish their result are and other things before Oyinda was called by her Mom to go and prepare food.

To be continued...

**** Moral ****
Life is too short, so enjoy it with your loved ones while it lasts. Abbey never realized he's going to depart from his friend so soon maybe he would have told her some other things, likewise spent more moments.

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5 Core Importance of Health and Fitness In Our Lives

There goes a saying which stated thus that "Health is Wealth" and indeed it is true because someone with inadequate health won't be able to do things that would made him/her to acquire wealth.
Although i was aware of the fact that staying healthy does matter a lot BUT to tell the truth, i wasn't paying attention to my health status which made me to break down recently (like i ignored the hair stylist and pay the penalty:/).
Having now regainning the lost strength back, my eyes opened to the importance of good health and i thought of sharing it on this blog whenever i had the enough energy todo so.

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Due to the reason i stated in my liebster award nomination about who inspire me (check question No #6), i worked myself more than i supposed to, and to worsen it all, i did only rest for a little period.
Not that it was my fault for the too much activity i involved myself which deteriorates my health status though, but i still held myself responsible because i would have avoided those things.

(What Sleeping Late Can Cause [Health Effects])

So dear TWB READERS both NEW (if you just stumbled upon this blog) and LOYAL reader (if you've already been a fan), below are the importance of being healthy which i deduced from my recent inactivity.

5 Importance of Good Health And Fitness In Our Life

  1. Ability to Partake In Any Activity - Good Health allows you to go anywhere you want and do whatever you want to do. Whether you wants to goto a wedding ceremony, either a birthday party, social gathering, or any form of recreational activities, GOOD HEALTH is the major Factor that influences as to whether you'll enjoy it or Not.
  2. You Don't Get To Use RECOMMENDED Medicines - The sight of those innocent medicine capsules waiting to enter through your mouth to the stomach often make me cringe. I understand that people use them for a good purpose but i don't know why, am just kind of -should i say allergic- to them.
    When one is healthy, you don't have to worry about using a RECOMMENDED medicines.
  3. Walk, Run and FLY to Wherever you Want - Never mind the word 'fly', seems i've exagerrated :/ | But sincerely speaking, when an human is in good health, he/she can choose to WALK and/or RUN for exercising, to a friend's place e.t.c
    My current situation limited to these freedom and prevents me from re-visiting someone regarding my writing works.
  4. Ability To Spend Quality Time With Your Family - If you're a father, you can choose to plan a short vacation with your wife and children just to have some good time likewise fun together! You might decides to go for shopping or go see some animals in the Zoo and took pictures. It might also be watching a movie together in the cinema house or a picnic!
    Whichever one you choose, it can all be done when you are in Good Health.
  5. Make Positive Impact - If you're thinking of sharing knowledge, spreading smiles, helping someone financially or psycologically, being in Good Health is the only way to go. For without it, it would be almost impossible to make a positive impact like we wished for.
Those are the few importance of being in good health and fitness hence it is a MUST we all stay healthy. I've also once written steps and easier method to stay healthy, you can go read it at 5 Easier Ways You Can Use To Maintain Good Health.
Do not forget to share this post on your social networks so your friend can learn too!
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